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Boundaries Aren’t Barriers—They’re Bridges


Many of us were raised to believe that being agreeable, self-sacrificing, or “easygoing” makes us good people—especially when it comes to family. But what if I told you that always saying “yes” is a fast track to burnout, resentment, and disconnection?


Setting boundaries is a form of love—for yourself and for others. It helps preserve your peace, protect your energy, and maintain healthy relationships in every area of life.


What Are Boundaries, Really?


Boundaries are the invisible lines that define what we are okay with and what we are not. They’re the rules we set for how we want to be treated.


They can be:


  • Emotional: “I’m not comfortable discussing that topic.”

  • Physical: “I need personal space right now.”

  • Time-based: “I’m unavailable after 6 PM.”

  • Relational: “I won’t tolerate disrespect, even from loved ones.”


The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing


People-pleasing might feel like kindness, but it often comes at your own expense. Here’s what it can lead to:


  • Chronic stress and anxiety

  • Emotional exhaustion

  • Loss of identity or self-worth

  • Built-up resentment in relationships

  • Lack of respect from others


How to Set Boundaries in Real Life


With Family


Scenario: Your aunt frequently makes unsolicited comments about your parenting.

Boundary: “I know you care, but I prefer to raise my children without commentary. Please trust me to make the best choices for them.”

Follow-up: If the behavior continues, limit time spent in those environments or change the topic firmly.


At Work


Scenario: A coworker expects you to cover for them frequently without reciprocation.

Boundary: “I won’t be able to take on your responsibilities today—I have a full plate of my own.”

Follow-up: Redirect them to a supervisor or colleague if necessary.


In Friendships


Scenario: A friend calls you every night to vent but doesn’t ask how you’re doing.

Boundary: “I want to be there for you, but I also need conversations to feel mutual. Can we check in with each other equally?”


With Yourself


Scenario: You overcommit and cancel personal time to meet everyone else’s needs.

Boundary: “I’m scheduling time for rest and won’t make new commitments this weekend.”


Respecting

Others’

Boundaries—Even When They Disappoint Us


It can sting when someone tells us “no,” sets limits, or pulls back from a relationship dynamic we’ve grown used to. But just as we want our boundaries honored, we must offer the same to others. Here’s how:


  • Pause before reacting: Ask, “What is this boundary protecting for them?”

  • Avoid guilt-tripping or trying to change their mind

  • Express understanding: “Thanks for letting me know. I appreciate your honesty.”

  • Reflect on your needs: Their boundary may invite you to examine your own patterns.


Boundaries are not punishments. They’re the foundation of every healthy relationship—including the one you have with yourself. When you speak up about your needs with love and clarity, you invite respect, peace, and emotional freedom into your life.


And remember—just as you deserve your limits to be honored, so does everyone else. Boundaries are not rejection. They’re protection.

Checkout this FREE Boundary Setting Worksheet for more practice.


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As we bid farewell to one year and embrace the possibilities of the next, the tradition of setting New Year's resolutions often takes center stage. It's a time when many of us reflect on the past and contemplate the future, setting goals to enhance our lives. But have you ever considered the profound impact this practice can have on your mental health?


The act of setting goals for the upcoming year isn't just about creating a to-do list; it's a powerful tool that can positively influence your mental well-being in various ways. Here's a closer look at how setting New Year's goals can benefit your mental health:


Providing Direction and Purpose


Goal-setting provides a roadmap for your aspirations, helping you define what's important to you and where you want to direct your energy. By outlining your objectives, you infuse your life with a sense of direction and purpose, which can increase motivation and optimism. This clarity can offer a sense of control over your life, thereby reducing stress and anxiety.


Fostering Growth and Self-Discovery


When you set goals, whether personal or professional, you challenge yourself to grow and evolve. This process of self-improvement fosters a sense of accomplishment and self-discovery, boosting self-esteem and confidence. The pursuit of these objectives encourages learning, resilience, and adaptability, vital aspects of mental health resilience.


Enhancing Overall Well-being


Attaining goals provides a sense of fulfillment and happiness, positively impacting your overall well-being. It's not just about the achievement itself but the journey—the progress made and lessons learned along the way. This sense of accomplishment releases dopamine, the "feel-good" neurotransmitter, contributing to a more positive mental state.


Freebie Worksheet: GOAL GETTER


To assist you in navigating your goal-setting journey for the new year, we've prepared a freebie worksheet available on our website. This worksheet is designed to help you craft meaningful and achievable goals based on the major domains of self-care, guiding you through the process step-by-step. From defining your goals to outlining action plans and tracking progress, this tool is your companion for a successful goal-setting experience.

Incorporating goal-setting into your New Year's traditions isn't just a ritual; it's a practice with significant mental health benefits. Embrace the opportunity to set goals that resonate with your aspirations, and witness the positive impact on your well-being throughout the year.


Take the first step toward a more fulfilling year—visit our website to download your free goal-setting worksheet today and embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth.

Wishing you a year filled with purpose, achievement, and abundant mental well-being!


Remember, setting goals is just the beginning—staying committed and taking consistent action is the key to turning your aspirations into reality. Cheers to a year of growth and success!

 
 
 

Motherhood is a journey filled with joy, love, and fulfillment, but it also comes with its unique set of challenges. While the focus often remains on the well-being of the child, it's equally essential to prioritize the mental health of mothers. A robust support system can be the cornerstone for moms facing difficulties, offering strength and guidance during challenging times.


Understanding the Importance of Support Systems


The weight of maternal responsibilities, combined with societal expectations, can be extremely overwhelming. In such instances, having a support system becomes vital. It provides a safe space for mothers to share their feelings, seek advice, and receive the emotional reinforcement they need.


A support system serves various purposes:


Emotional Support:

Fellow moms, friends, family members, or support groups can provide a listening ear, empathy, and encouragement, validating a mother's experiences and feelings with no judgment.


Practical Support:

Assistance with household chores, childcare, or meal preparation can significantly alleviate stress, enabling mothers to take breaks and focus on self-care, particularly sleep. Lack of sleep is a huge leading risk factor to perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.


Informational Support:

Access to reliable information, resources, and expert advice can empower moms with knowledge and strategies to navigate challenges effectively.


Building a Diverse Support System


Creating a diverse support network is essential as it ensures a well-rounded approach to tackling different aspects of motherhood. Here are five ways to build such a system:


1. Community Support Groups:

Online forums, local community centers, or parenting groups can be excellent places to connect with other moms facing similar challenges. They provide a platform for sharing experiences and gaining insights.


2. Non-Traditional Supports:

Explore unconventional sources of support like social media groups, apps designed for moms, or online communities. These platforms often offer a wealth of resources, advice, and a sense of belonging.


3. Professional Support:

Therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals specializing in maternal mental health can offer tailored guidance and support for specific challenges such as postpartum depression, anxiety, or stress management.


4. Peer-to-Peer Connections:

Building friendships with other moms at daycare, school events, or local parent-child activities can create a supportive circle where experiences can be shared and emotional support provided.


5. Family and Friends:

Encouraging open communication with family and friends is crucial. Often, loved ones can provide a strong support system if they understand the challenges faced by the mother.


In the whirlwind of motherhood, having a support system is not a luxury but a necessity. It's about fostering connections that offer understanding, empathy, and practical assistance when needed the most. Non-traditional supports found in online communities, social media groups, and unconventional platforms can complement traditional avenues, offering diverse perspectives and guidance.


To support moms, let's continue to highlight the importance of building these networks, destigmatize seeking help, and create a culture where every mother feels supported in her journey towards mental well-being. Remember, it takes a village to raise a child, and a supportive community to nurture a mother.


If you or someone you know is struggling, don't hesitate to reach out and build that vital support system—it can make all the difference.


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